10 Funny Truth about Dating Online
Are there too many scammers on dating sites? Only losers will find partners online? Do singles add fake photos to their profiles? Let's see the 10 funny truth about dating online:
1, People dating online are not losers
Contrary to the stereotype of online dating, there is little evidence that online dating is the last social tool used by socially inept. Online daters, on the other hand, maybe more sociable, have higher self-esteem and have lower levels of dating anxiety, the study found. There's no evidence that people use online dating because they don't have the ability to meet people face-to-face. Online dating is just a way to meet new people!
There are many motivations for people to start dating online. There is usually a trigger, such as a breakup, but generally, people are motivated more by social interaction than by personal reasons. People use online dating not because they are shy, but because they move to a new city, or work too long, or don't have time to meet new friends.
2, Online daters lie
While 94 percent deny that their online dating profile contains innocuous lies, psychologists suspect they are. So the researchers measured the height, weight and driver's license of 80 online daters to determine their true age. When they compared the data to their home page, they found that 90% of people lied on at least one of the measured data but by a small margin. The most frequent liars were weight, who adjusted their weight by an average of 5 percent, and daters were more honest about their age (1.5 percent off) and height (1.1 percent off).
As expected, women tend to shed some weight, while men gain some height. These lies don't matter in the real world because most innocuous lies are hard to prove from one person. Most online daters end up wanting to meet up with each other, and they know full well that if you lie too much, it will show up.
3, Photographic error
The phrase "camera never lies" is nonsense. Even if you don't use photoshop to remove wrinkles, camera angles and lighting can easily change your attractiveness in the eyes of others. People instinctively recognize this when they look for photos on the home page.
Cornell's Toma and Hancock have taken photos of some online daters and compared them to their homepage photos. The results found that while less attractive people were more likely to choose the beautified images, the overall difference was not large. The photos were only slightly less attractive than the ones on their online dating profiles (about 5 percent for women and 4 percent for men).
4, Your best photos
What kind of homepage photos work? A dating site analyzed 7,000 photos from the database and got the results below.
Women responded more often when their eyes were looking at the camera and they looked flirtatious. On the contrary, the least successful of the photos was to have a provocative face and turn it away. The best image of a man is to turn his face away and not smile. But men should avoid making their faces look provocative, or their chances of receiving a private letter will be greatly reduced.
5, Like-minded singles are more attracted to each other
Even though there are many different types of online daters, people still want to date similar people. Fiore and Donath of the MIT media lab looked at data from 65,000 online daters and found that people's choices depend largely on whether the target is similar to them.
In this regard, dating online is not different from dating offline. On average, people are looking for partners who are similar to them. There are certainly a number of niche dating sites, such as sports fans, jews, or people with special physical conditions.
6, Age and education background
To study the diversity of dating online, Dutton et al. of the Oxford Internet Institute surveyed 2,670 online dating couples in the UK, Australia, and Spain in 2009. In these samples, online daters were more likely to have significant differences in age and education background compared to people who met the traditional way.
While the opposite is less attractive to people, the nature of online dating does encourage diversity in the pairing. The authors argue that online dating changes the shape of marriage by creating encounters for people who were previously unlikely to meet.
7, Keep the first private message short
Getting a response online can be a hit. Dating site Oktrends estimates the response rate by analyzing more than half a million initial messages sent by members. Only 30 percent of messages sent to women by men and 45 percent of messages sent to men by women were answered by women. The percentage of people who end up with long conversations is lower (about 20 percent and 30 percent, respectively).
Research by Rosen et al., of the psychology department at California state university, suggests that a third of this response rate is partly because many online daters' accounts are no longer used. Oktrends also found that longer, private messages only increased men's response rates slightly, and were completely useless to women. So don't waste your time writing long speeches. Say hello and let the other person see your page.
8, Emotional people are more attractive
In the same study about online dating that I mentioned earlier, Rosen et al. found that both men and women, the more emotional they were, the better they were perceived, using words like "excited" and "wonderful."The study also took into account the effects of self-exposure, and although the results varied widely, overall people preferred people with relatively low levels of self-exposure.
9, After searching 51% of people will meet
Many (but not all) online daters aim to meet new people. A survey found that 51 percent of the 759 online daters had a face-to-face date between one week and one month after receiving a response. Online daters often see a first face-to-face date as the last step in choosing the right person - is this guy really the guy they claim to be? If so, are there any chemical reactions between us? Only after this stage can people really understand each other.
10, Dating online is not shopping
No matter how sure the researchers are about dating online, there's no doubt that online dating can sometimes be unsatisfying, even annoying. Frost and others studied 132 online daters and found that they spent seven times as much time sifting through people's home pages and sending emails as they did on a real face-to-face date.
Part of the reason is that online dating encourages people to think in a consumer-oriented way. People turn relationships into checkboxes. Of course, this is more of a critique of existing Internet dating techniques than the concept itself. This will change as online dating services evolve in more experiential ways, such as virtual dating.